Being a parent is one of the toughest jobs in the world. From the moment we bring our little ones into the world, we are responsible for their well-being and happiness. We strive to be the hero in our child's life, guiding them through challenges and providing them with love and support. The challenges are endless, and for those of us with FastBraiin kids, the challenges can sometimes feel overwhelming.
In this episode, we will explore how we can be the hero our child needs and create a positive and nurturing environment for them to thrive.
Why Your Child Needs a Hero:
It is natural for children to look up to their parents as heroes. As their first role models, we have the power to shape their perception of the world and their place in it. By being their hero, we can instill in them a sense of security, confidence, and resilience. One of the first things we should do as parents is to set the stage for our children. We need to provide them with a mindset that prepares them for the battles they may face, especially when they head off to school.
Building a Strong Relationship:
One of the foundations of being your child's hero is building a strong relationship with them. This starts with open communication and active listening – being present. Take the time to understand your child's hopes, dreams, and fears. Show genuine interest in their lives and provide them with a safe space to express themselves. In turn, share your gifts, ideas, and dreams with them. By sharing your own experiences, you help them understand that overcoming challenges is part of the journey.
Providing Emotional Support:
As a hero, it is essential to provide emotional support to your child. Be there for them during both the highs and lows of life. Offer a shoulder to cry on, celebrate their victories, and help them navigate through difficult situations. By showing empathy and compassion, you can help your child develop a healthy emotional well-being.
Showing our children how to accomplish things and providing them with the tools they need is a daily task. It is crucial to give them a healing environment to come home to after a long day at school. Just as we crave hugs and kind words after a rough day at work, our children need the same. When they walk through the door, greet them with love and warmth. Let them know how happy you are to see them and how much you love them. When they leave for school in the morning, remind them of your love and your anticipation for seeing them again in the evening. These positive affirmations and daily reminders create a strong foundation of love and support for our children.
Setting a Positive Example:
Children learn by observing their parents' behavior. Therefore, it is crucial to set a positive example for them. Demonstrate qualities such as honesty, kindness, and perseverance. Show them how to handle challenges and setbacks with grace and resilience. Be the role model they can look up to.
Being our child's hero means embracing the struggles and challenges that come with parenting. We will undoubtedly face obstacles along the way, but it is how we overcome them that truly matters. We must show up and be present in our children's lives, even when things get tough. By demonstrating resilience and perseverance, we become the heroes our children need.
While we strive to be our child's hero, it is equally vital to encourage their independence. Allow them to make decisions, take risks, and learn from their mistakes. Provide guidance and support, but also give them the freedom to explore and grow. By doing so, you empower them to become their own heroes.
Nurturing their Passions:
Each child is unique, with their own interests and talents. As their hero, it is our job to nurture and support their passions. Encourage them to explore different activities and hobbies. Celebrate their achievements and help them overcome obstacles. By nurturing their passions, you can help your child develop a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
Being a parent is no easy task, especially when raising FastBraiin kids. However, we have the power to be our child's hero. By setting the stage for success, providing a loving and healing environment, and having a clear vision for our children, we can make a significant impact on their lives. Let us remember that parenting is a journey, and as heroes, we will face challenges, but with love and determination, we will overcome them and see our children grow into confident, resilient, and happy individuals.
Remember, being a hero is not about having superpowers or being perfect. It is about being present for your child, guiding them, and showing them unconditional love. So, put on your superhero cape and be the hero your child deserves.
- Dr. Jim
[00:00:00] Dr. Jim Poole, MD: Welcome to Dr. Jim's FastBraiin. I'm Dr. Jim Poole and I have definitely FastBraiin!
[00:00:09] Being a parent is really tough. I was a fantastic pediatrician until I had kids and then I realized every day is a huge, huge challenge. And having ADHD kids that I have, that just put the challenges way over and above anything seemingly any other parent is dealing with.
[00:00:28] But today, I want us to realize that we are the child's hero. We're the person that they look up to. So, it's imperative that we are the ones that set the stage, that give them the mindset to go off to battle, which is going off to school.
[00:00:43] We're the ones that give them our gifts, our ideas, our dreams. We're the ones that help them understand that they are okay inside, not telling them that they're okay, but showing them. You know, feeling that feeling of okay, because we [00:01:00] all have such negative self-talk, we have to accomplish. And when we accomplish it, then we know that we're okay.
[00:01:06] So show them how to accomplish things. Give them the tools. And that's a daily thing.
[00:01:11] Giving them that healing environment that they are fighting when they come home from school. What do you want when you come home from work and you've had a rough day? You want a hug. You want somebody to say, "Oh, I love you."
[00:01:24] So when they get in the car, when they walk in the door, or when you walk in and see them for the first time after school say, "Oh, it is so good to see you. I love you very much."
[00:01:35] When they go off to school the next morning, tell them, "I love you very much. I can't wait to see you this evening." Give them that positive relationship, that positive daily plus, that mindset that they're okay.
[00:01:49] And get a vision for your child. Write it down. And follow those daily visions, and monitor your vision, and keep changing it just like in a business.
[00:01:59] And [00:02:00] this will allow you to become that child's hero. The hero that, you know, heroes struggle. And they have challenges and they overcome them. That's what we are as parents. We're going to have challenges and we're going to struggle, but we're going to overcome them. Because we are in the game and parenting is all about showing up.
[00:02:19] Good luck. I hope you can learn more in our other workshops and our book, "Flipping ADHD on its Head," but I look forward to seeing you in the future. Thank you.